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The Trauma Bond

If you're reading about narcissists or you have come to this site to learn more, then you probably already have some inclination that you are currently in a relationship with a narc. Therefore, even if you haven't yet delved into the depths of gaslighting, manipulation, love bombing and discarding, you probably already know that your partner cheats on you, treats you badly and generally just doesn't give a shit about…

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The Important Thing About NPD

With everything we need to know about a person with narcissistic personality disorder, there is one thing that I think we need to get through our heads more than anything else. It's also the one thing that is the hardest to wrap our heads around. The most important thing to understand about narcissistic personality disorder is this...they don't love you. A narcissist is completely incapable of loving another person. They'll…

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The Cycle of Narcissistic Abuse

Narcissistic abuse is a cycle that you may be trapped in and not even realise. The cycle goes in four stages and will continue around and around for as long as you let it. Idealise The idealise phase is where the love bombing and future faking begin. Love bombing is the act of showering someone with love and affection in an attempt to manipulate. Narcs will make you feel as…

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What is a Narcissist?

According to Greek mythology, Narcissus was a hunter who thought he was so good looking that he fell in love with his reflection and spent the rest of his days staring at himself in a pool of water. And that's what I thought a narcissist was; a person who was really into themselves (or 'up themselves' as we would say as kids). I have since learned that narcissism is so…

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